Taking things personally can be annoying, but sometimes when we try and stop doing something it makes matters worse. If we can accept it we may be more likely to change it.

Sometimes we make choices that cause us to be upset and we blame the other person. In this blog I share two examples of how we do that. One way is not communicating, the other is putting someone in what is called a double bind.

Are you focusing on the progress you are making or achieving perfection?

Sometimes we ignore signs that we could benefit from counseling. Talking to a trusted family member of friend may not provide the same resolution to your struggles.

Focusing too much on yourself can be bad for your mental health.

We are all attached to our problems at one time or another. It could be secondary gains that are keeping you stuck.

A diagnosis is used to describe what you are experiencing it is not who you are.

Intense emotions can feel scary. But you don’t have to feel powerless against them.

You can slow down, if you wanted to. Choosing to slow down can take a bit of conscious effort but it is possible.

Progress is not linear, but it is designed that way for your benefit.

Do you say to yourself, “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” We get in a tug of war with our emotions when we don’t allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling.

Increasing awareness of your thinking can help you to be more in control of you emotional responses.